Showing posts from January, 2017

On friendship, singlehood, and marriage

“Singlehood is good. Marriage is good.” - Timothy Keller, paraphrased
Today got me reflecting again about singlehood versus marriage. The latter of course, something the church’s made an idol out of.
As much as they’d like to deny it, it certainly is, at least in the former church I used to belong to.
Why else would they have a group especially dedicated to singles trying to get together? No harm in that, but why not form one dedicated to promoting friendship instead?

“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life for one's friends.” - John 15:13
I mean come on, Jesus was the greatest friend. He died for us all.
How often today do we see friends laying down their lives for one another? In this age of busyness (especially in Singapore) I find myself missing out on the lives of the ones I most dearly want to know and be known to, simply because of a lack of time.
We need to carve out time for one another.
I need to.
Anyway, on back to the original topic, I’ve been reading …

Why a gay Christian would transit from a liberal church to a conservative one

So I attended my very first DG (Discipleship Group aka Cell Group) for 2017 last night.
It was a great time of discussion on the book of Luke and we even prayed for each other after the sharing was done. The people were all kind to me, a newcomer, and took time to listen to my questions and answer them.
Still, I had a niggling feeling that might change if I came out to them. 
I might be wrong. They could possibly be accepting of gay people.
But even that might change if I revealed that I was involved in a relationship with a person of the same sex.
At Adam Road Presbyterian Church (ARPC), the senior pastor had talked about the topic of sexuality once before, late last year, at the Saturday youth ministry session, which I attended with my partner.
It was all sensible and pastoral. I liked it that he encouraged the parents in particular to journey with their children if they came out to them.But at the beginning of the year, in the very first service last Sunday, I was dismayed to find out t…