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Psalm by Jerrold Yam

That night, I didn't know what came over me.
A scene of two characters kissing
brought me to my knees, my elbows
folded on my thighs the way soldiers
prepared for execution, the
human body scrunched and twisted as if
back in its maker's womb. I asked
for wisdom, as Solomon did, anything
to help me understand my making,
if I was thoughtfully constructed
according to plan, if every move of mine
inked its immortality in the loving
pages of your hands. I didn't have a choice.
I didn't have a choice. For years
doubts rode my back like distant travellers
and I tried not to think of them, to be
infinitely echoed in mirrors of self-pity. But 
not that night. Tears and mucus
like two rivers married across the barren
plateau of my face, pungent
drops scattered on the wood I knelt on, I finally
knew how the biggest and brightest boast of humanity
would never be mine. Here I am,
pure and unkissed, completely surrendered to
the fearfully and wonderfully made.

- extracted from Scattered Vertebrate, by Jerro…

How to come out safely

Having come out to a dozen or more Christians over the past couple of years, I thought I'd put this post up just to chronicle my experience and to help those wishing to come out but have never done so. Do note that every coming out experience is different, and that these tips may or may not work well for you. Be wise and prayerful about coming out, especially if it isn't safe for you to do so. However, I generally feel that coming out is generally a rather freeing experience and a way of living life honestly and without deceit.

So here goes...
Step 1: Testing waters To assess if the person you'd like to come out to is safe or not, try asking questions, bringing them in naturally in the course of a conversation in real life or in a text (I would opt to do this face to face because it is on the whole easier to read body language than rely on nuances in text messaging, so do so only if you can't meet the person). 
"What do you think of the legalisation of g…

On Aydian Dowling

I once read a quote whose authorship I cannot place but it went something like this:
"In the silence of the church, people look to the world for guidance."
This video showcases an increasingly popular Aydian Dowling (with 24,400 followers and counting on YouTube) who at this moment of writing is contending for the top spot to be on the cover for Men's Health magazine for the year 2015. He is trans and that's perhaps why he is being interviewed on Ellen. As I watched the video, I thought of some questions I might ask the Christian reader of this blog. 
If you are a Christian, how would you respond to a friend who is asking for donations to fund his/her surgery?
If you are a pastor/elder/leader in church, how would you advise the parents seeking your advice on how to cope after their child came out as trans and is needs their permission to start on hormones? If you think that answer is clear cut and simple, consider the 41% suicide rate among transgender people.
Would you ra…

John 8:1-11

Jesus went across to Mount Olives, but he was soon back in the Temple again. Swarms of people came to him. He sat down and taught them.

The religion scholars and Pharisees led in a woman who had been caught in an act of adultery. They stood her in plain sight of everyone and said, "Teacher, this woman was caught red-handed in the act of adultery. Moses, in the Law, gives orders to stone such persons. What do you say?" They were trying to trap him into saying something incriminating so they could bring charges against him.

Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger in the dirt. They kept at him, badgering him. He straightened up and said, "The sinless one among you, go first: Throw the stone." Bending down again, he wrote some more in the dirt.

Hearing that, they walked away, one after another, beginning with the oldest. The woman was left alone. Jesus stood up and spoke to her. "Woman, where are they? Does no one condemn you?"

"No one, Master."


Some sort of a haiku


The Importance of Language

Words kill, words give life;they’re either poison or fruit - you choose.Proverbs 18:21, The Message
Because they do, I believe we have to choose what we say carefully. Especially to our LGBT+ brothers and sisters. Especially those we might find in the church.
Let me share some personal stories to illustrate how innocent words can inadvertently cause harm and damage, sometimes, irreparable.
Incident #1 Throwback to June 2013 when I was at the last Exodus International Conference in California.
I was having lunch and chatting with a middle aged Caucasian lady (everyone was extremely friendly there) and she was telling me about why she was at the conference - her son is gay. She asked me why, and I gave my standard answer, that I struggle with same-sex attraction. She then went on to say, “So, when did you leave that lifestyle?”
Being the naive Singaporean girl, I answered her earnestly, “Actually, I’ve never been in that lifestyle……” and went on to share my story.
Looking back, that was one o…